We’re All Just Learning to Walk

Good morning! I hope you all are having a great start to this Wednesday! I’m happy to hear that several of you have already tried and enjoyed yesterday’s tabata workout. I loved it so much that I actually did it again last night while watching the Biggest Loser :)

I also just need to apologize for the pictures in this post – I couldn’t find the real camera this morning so this post is riddled with myspace-esque cell phone photos. Who’s excited?


If you enjoyed yesterday’s tabata circuit, you are going to be happy because I have another one for ya! This one focuses a bit more on your arms but it still gets the blood pumpin!


Before I completed the tabata circuit, I went out for a quick bike ride around the neighborhood. I did a total of 2.25 miles – just a baby short ride! I really did not want to get off my bike and I would much rather that I was telling you I went out for 20 miles but I figured that no one in my office would appreciate me using my shower time to go for a long bike ride. There’s only so much that deodorant can hide :)

The 2.5 mile ride was still a decent effort because it was almost all hills. I hate hills! But, I also sort of love them once its over.


I whipped up a delicious smoothie/milkshake this morning that you guys are going to love. I omitted ice for the first time which made the smoothie much more smooth and ice-cream-like than my typical concoctions.

Chocolate Orange Protein Shake

  • 1 1/2 Cup Milk
  • 1 -6oz Chobani in Blood Orange flavor
  • 1 Tbsp Cocoa Powder
  • 1 Scoop Protein Powder (I used vanilla because that is all I had but if you use chocolate powder, limit the addition of cocoa powder by half)

I also packed one of the breakfast burritos I made yesterday. I packed “the classic” and added in some chives and jalapenos. I’ll probably heat this up and enjoy as a mid morning snack since that smoothie really filled me up.


Learning to Walk

Back when we lived in Everett, I worked as a volunteer with Domestic Violence Services (DVS) of Snohomish County. In order to become a volunteer, I had to go through the DVS training program in order to learn how to deal with certain aspects of the department (such as 911 calls, working in the shelter, counseling women and children and other various things). The DVS program is an “advocacy based” social service. The core belief is that you are always acting as an advocate – offering resources, support and a listening ear; we do not “do” anything – we help the women “do for themselves.”

The idea behind this is similar to the old saying “give a man a fish, he eats for a day – teach a man to fish, he eats for a lifetime” but it goes a step beyond that. The idea is that if we merely do the work for the women in the shelter – get them a job, find them housing, etc then they still are in a position where they can’t do it on their own. Helping someone too much gives the subconscious message that they can’t do it themselves. Helping people, however, and being there to answer questions is much more powerful.

I have always believed this but the class really helped to flesh out this type of teaching. You can see this principle at work in lots of places. I see it in everything I do for my children.

Spencer is just learning how to walk. He is a speed demon when he has something he can walk behind and push in front of him.

He’s a happy clam when I hold his hand to walk.

And I’m fairly certain that he could walk on his own if he would just let go of my finger. I try to switch from my letting him grasp my whole hand, to just one finger and eventually pry that away from him as well. Sometimes, if he doesn’t notice right away – he’ll remain standing and go to take an additional step without my help. As soon as he realizes my finger is gone though he will drop his bottom down to the floor and then crawl. Its only when he sees that he isn’t holding a hand anymore.

So he’s not walking yet.

But I keep letting go of his hand and eventually – he’ll do it on his own.

Life is a lot like learning to walk. Sometimes things are intimidating or even impossible for us where we are currently. We haven’t developed the skills yet or we aren’t well versed in whatever it is we are stepping into.

And so we like to have a “hand to hold” and help us wobble around and get a good feel for things.

Eventually that hand has to go away though. And maybe we’re still trying to grasp onto that pinky finger that we believe “we still need” but how will we know unless we let go? In the real world, its more often the case that the pinky finger is taken from us before we would really like it to be or before we truly feel comfortable on our own.

As a parent, its always good to remember that taking away the pinky finger is not only beneficial, its necessary. We can’t “do” for our kids forever – we have to let them stumble a bit and pick up on their own. Be an advocate for our children.

As a person, its always good to remember that sometimes we’re going to feel as though our safety net (that pinky finger, or whatever it may be) has abandoned us. It is then that we get to hone our skills, find our strength and take a step on our own. And that’s really what we want isn’t it? People in our lives that will help and encourage us to be able to do for ourselves rather than coddle and suppress our growth. Our weakness is only a chance to become stronger. I have strong advocates in my life – I want to be a strong advocate in others.

After all, we are all just learning to walk in some fashion or another.